Getting rid of game addiction the wrong way can lead to depression

Getting rid of game addiction the wrong way can lead to depression.

 

If a game addict tries to quit gaming using the mainstream 12 step programs, it might lead to depression. I have talked to a lot of people that have used the mainstream 12 step programs when trying to quit gaming and one thing they all have in common. They are not happy.

 

The reason of this is they get the wrong advice from the mainstream 12 step programs. Get a pet, take a dance course or start to draw. This approach is catastrophic for the game addict because not everyone is suited nor have the personality type to draw, dance or owning a pet.

The game addicts can manage to quit gaming, but they are suffering because they have nothing fun to do in real life that replaces the game. I have even heard extreme examples of people that have quit gaming like ten years ago, and they are still counting game free days. Counting game free days after being out of it for ten years? That's a pure definition of failure.

My 16-year-old sons the biggest hobby is to party. The reason I let him do it at that young age can be debatable. But from my point of view. I prefer him to make mistakes before he hits the age of 18 than after. And knowing what happens with adrenaline and testosterone within the teen community. I prefer the consequences of that occurs before the age of 18. For legal reasons. If this is the right approach, I don't know and feel free to debate me on that one.

 

Point of this is approach is that my son thinks he will party his entire life. I tell him that won't be the case because, after some time, he will get bored with going out with the same friends, talking about the same things, telling the same jokes, talking behind the back about the same people using the same lines, suffering from the same hangovers. There will come a time he will get bored with it and find some other tasks he will find more interesting.

He says -Absolutely not. I will party to the age of 60!!

I say no, there will be a time you will find other tasks in your life that will give you more pleasure, and you will prioritize them instead. I can't say today what that will be. Maybe you get a great girlfriend that will want to travel a lot. Maybe you will join some charity community, maybe you will start bowling. Maybe you will find some other hobby or profession you will give your life too. But one thing is for sure. Life is a journey and you won't be stuck in the same thing for your entire life. That's the cycle of life. Sure you will go out with your friends from time to time partying. I also do that. It's fun but it's not the highest priority anymore.

 

The same thing goes when trying to quit gaming. However, when using the mainstream 12 step program, the game addict ends up like the ex-game addict counting days. This means the ex-game addict is suffering and can't go forward. The natural selections of activities are in some way stopped. It's like having the 16-year old that who's the biggest dream is to party his or her entire life, force him or her to Saudi Arabia where alcohol is forbidden and let him or her stay there for the rest of his or her life wondering and suffering because he or she couldn't enjoy the parties. By doing this, the natural cycle of life is interrupted. The 16-year-old will be stuck in the fantasy that partying is something amazing because he or she will never do it and discover in a natural way, that it gets bored after a while.

 

A similar thing is going on when a game addict that tries to quit gaming using the 12 step mainstream program where they have now whatsoever solutions to what to do with the offline endless time syndrome and activity anxiety syndrome. All they have is get a pet, take a dance course and start to draw. This result in the game addict ends up unhappy because not everyone is suited to dance, drawing or owning a pet.

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